In our Society, we are bound to want, and we want it now. It's also part of our nature, which is not always for our good. Mostly when it comes to the struggles we come across—we want answers. This seemingly trivial but finer point of impatience is what I would like to discuss.
One day or another, we must face some event or situation that makes us suffer to varying degrees. Being human, we typically want to know why It's happening to us, and we want answers right away because we feel hurt, sad, or disappointed.
It's valid to question our situation, but we don't have to have the answer right away. We need to know that whatever we are going through at that moment is for our growth, to learn how to cope the right way with the present situation and to get wisdom. If we love ourselves enough, during these trials, we will allow ourselves to evolve so that we can become stronger. We need not be destroyed by what is happening in our lives at the moment or drive ourselves crazy over not knowing the reason why it happens. Acknowledge that it's a choice to have a positive outlook on the negative aspect of the situation, a silver lining, despite the pain it causes. It's the best way to go about it if we want a healthy and constructive outcome.
To be content and stay in the present moment.
The minute we surrender to the present moment, we open the door for the answers to the ''why'' questions that will come in their own good time. Yet, for as long as we do not let go, we make the suffering worse, and it takes longer to heal.
I found myself having to go through a lot before I was able to grow, learn to take it one day at the time, to abandon myself to the Divine Providence and to stay in the now. That was liberating for me; it also reduced the pain. Once I realized that even though I didn't have the power to change the situation I was in—I had the power to change myself. That is when life became much easier. By disciplining my mind to stay in the present moment and live content, I gained strength, peace, and serenity. It didn't bother me anymore to know "why" this was happening to me. I accepted it and surrendered to the present reality. As a result, the answers came later, some of them by my self-reflections and some through other means such as reading, events, friends or other people. It took me years to overcome this difficulty because I was the one who was self-inflicting this suffering.
Of course that's not an easy thing to do when it comes to cultivating the present moment with contentment, but it's worth it when we can enjoy the fruits of our efforts. The fruits are that you can heal gradually while being at peace with the situation. You are also able to face any situation or event with better tools for your future.
Live in the present moment and be content in believing that what is happening is for a purpose and for self-growth. Stay at peace—you deserve the best you can give yourself.